Comments for Mums on the Blog http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk Yet another mummy site ;- ) Fri, 17 Feb 2012 19:29:00 +0000 hourly 1 Comment on Mummy, I want… by Lauren-lloyd http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/mummy-i-want/#comment-1246 Lauren-lloyd Fri, 17 Feb 2012 19:29:00 +0000 http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/?p=2820#comment-1246 Brilliant blog - I was also 10 in 1988 ; )  and am definitely trying to recreate the simpler kind of childhood I recall, for my own children.  I am adamant at the moment that my daughter won't have all the gadgets her friends have because she will be otherwise occupied with extra curricular activities etc.  However - I know that my determined ideals will no doubt be chipped away so that by the time she is 10, I will do anything to avoid her being picked on and bullied like you said. It's me, and other parents like me, who are subjected to peer pressure and very often give in. Brilliant blog – I was also 10 in 1988 ; )  and am definitely trying to recreate the simpler kind of childhood I recall, for my own children.  I am adamant at the moment that my daughter won’t have all the gadgets her friends have because she will be otherwise occupied with extra curricular activities etc.  However – I know that my determined ideals will no doubt be chipped away so that by the time she is 10, I will do anything to avoid her being picked on and bullied like you said. It’s me, and other parents like me, who are subjected to peer pressure and very often give in.

]]> Comment on Mummy, I want… by Anonymous http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/mummy-i-want/#comment-1245 Anonymous Fri, 17 Feb 2012 13:02:00 +0000 http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/?p=2820#comment-1245 No I really agree with you it is scary and kids are generally so spoilt as it's the norm. I have tries not to spoil my children but you are right you don't want your kids to be picked on because they don't have the best things. Maybe the economic downturn will have an effect, we certainly don't have the money to buy all of ours all the must have gadgets. A really great post! No I really agree with you it is scary and kids are generally so spoilt as it’s the norm. I have tries not to spoil my children but you are right you don’t want your kids to be picked on because they don’t have the best things. Maybe the economic downturn will have an effect, we certainly don’t have the money to buy all of ours all the must have gadgets. A really great post!

]]> Comment on Mummy, I want… by Emily http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/mummy-i-want/#comment-1244 Emily Fri, 17 Feb 2012 10:54:00 +0000 http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/?p=2820#comment-1244 We got Joel two presents this Christmas plus one "from Santa" - no expensive gadgets, he just wanted Lego! But his extended family all went crazy with presents and he ended up with literally dozens and dozens. It was really, really lovely of them, of course, but you could see he was losing any sense of value. It was just a case of rip of the wrapping and on to the next one. We're going to set some rules next year - one present per person with a £10 limit - he'll still get loads even on that basis! We got Joel two presents this Christmas plus one “from Santa” – no expensive gadgets, he just wanted Lego! But his extended family all went crazy with presents and he ended up with literally dozens and dozens. It was really, really lovely of them, of course, but you could see he was losing any sense of value. It was just a case of rip of the wrapping and on to the next one. We’re going to set some rules next year – one present per person with a £10 limit – he’ll still get loads even on that basis!

]]> Comment on Mummy, I want… by Icklebabe http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/mummy-i-want/#comment-1243 Icklebabe Fri, 17 Feb 2012 10:51:00 +0000 http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/?p=2820#comment-1243 Such a thought provoking post, it's so hard to strike the right balance. With a teen and a twelve yr old as well as a toddler I can really relate. Christmas is always a mine field of guilt if you dont ... or guilt plus dept if you do splash out. My eldest got a SLR camera for her birthday, it cost over £500 , but she did except she would get nothing for Christmas . She loves it, and wants to pursue photography in the future. I think it's hard because there is so much more gadgetry available now, and of course the kids want it, they are the only ones who really know how to use it all too, but i do so wish it was different, but we cant go back, can we? x Such a thought provoking post, it’s so hard to strike the right balance. With a teen and a twelve yr old as well as a toddler I can really relate. Christmas is always a mine field of guilt if you dont … or guilt plus dept if you do splash out.
My eldest got a SLR camera for her birthday, it cost over £500 , but she did except she would get nothing for Christmas . She loves it, and wants to pursue photography in the future.
I think it’s hard because there is so much more gadgetry available now, and of course the kids want it, they are the only ones who really know how to use it all too, but i do so wish it was different, but we cant go back, can we? x

]]> Comment on Can there be four? by Claire Jeffreys http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/can-there-be-four/#comment-1239 Claire Jeffreys Thu, 09 Feb 2012 22:58:00 +0000 http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/?p=2757#comment-1239 I have the opposite problem - I want as many children as I can manage (realistically, this would probably be only another one or two), but my husband wants NO MORE (yes, he shouts it!). If only I had the energy/inclination to seduce him, it would be far more likely to happen... ;)  Enjoy your lovely little man, and focus on getting yourself back on track. That's the most important thing xx I have the opposite problem – I want as many children as I can manage (realistically, this would probably be only another one or two), but my husband wants NO MORE (yes, he shouts it!). If only I had the energy/inclination to seduce him, it would be far more likely to happen… ;)  

Enjoy your lovely little man, and focus on getting yourself back on track. That’s the most important thing xx

]]> Comment on Boys playing with girls toys by Claire Jeffreys http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/boys-playing-with-girls-toys/#comment-1238 Claire Jeffreys Thu, 09 Feb 2012 22:54:00 +0000 http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/?p=2800#comment-1238 Funnily enough, my son (4) was showing an interest in his little sister's dolls today for the first time ever. At first I thought he was just trying to annoy her by taking what was hers, but he really did seem to want to play with them. It was a little strange watching him carrying a doll around, as he's normally so into his typical boy toys. I wouldn't worry too much about your little man. I think a boy who grows up with sisters is going to be more understanding of the women in his life, and in terms of boys being easier than girls, I heard that a lot too. Now that I have one of each, I think it's complete rubbish! Both my son and daughter have had their difficult phases, and I'm sure they'll continue to do so. We don't worry when little girls play with cars and trucks, so why shouldn't boys play with dolls? Good post - one to make us think! ;)  Funnily enough, my son (4) was showing an interest in his little sister’s dolls today for the first time ever. At first I thought he was just trying to annoy her by taking what was hers, but he really did seem to want to play with them. It was a little strange watching him carrying a doll around, as he’s normally so into his typical boy toys. I wouldn’t worry too much about your little man. I think a boy who grows up with sisters is going to be more understanding of the women in his life, and in terms of boys being easier than girls, I heard that a lot too. Now that I have one of each, I think it’s complete rubbish! Both my son and daughter have had their difficult phases, and I’m sure they’ll continue to do so. We don’t worry when little girls play with cars and trucks, so why shouldn’t boys play with dolls? Good post – one to make us think! ;)  

]]> Comment on Boys playing with girls toys by Simon Jones http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/boys-playing-with-girls-toys/#comment-1236 Simon Jones Tue, 07 Feb 2012 17:05:00 +0000 http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/?p=2800#comment-1236 I wanted a Barbie once... my mother honoured my request. To this date I don't know if it was her liberal views, the fact she wanted a daughter, or just a sick joke to get back at my father (then divorced). I played with that doll and washed her hair in my green wheelbarrow on the front porch. I must have been around 6 or 7. I don't have any bad memories of bullying as a result, I grew up to be independent, got married aged 25 and run a small business. I learned to do this with the values my parents instilled on me, I'm racially and gender tollerant and was always top of my class for most subjects... I don't see why there's anything wrong with girls toys for boys, it can't mess up a sane mind, it can't cause gender confusion, it won't make a straight child gay any more than action man will make a gay child straight. These stereotypes are human created stereotypes, animals make no distinction between male and female when it comes to toys and colours, it's just us. So stay liberal, stop worrying and keep loving your children! I wanted a Barbie once… my mother honoured my request. To this date I don’t know if it was her liberal views, the fact she wanted a daughter, or just a sick joke to get back at my father (then divorced). I played with that doll and washed her hair in my green wheelbarrow on the front porch. I must have been around 6 or 7. I don’t have any bad memories of bullying as a result, I grew up to be independent, got married aged 25 and run a small business. I learned to do this with the values my parents instilled on me, I’m racially and gender tollerant and was always top of my class for most subjects… I don’t see why there’s anything wrong with girls toys for boys, it can’t mess up a sane mind, it can’t cause gender confusion, it won’t make a straight child gay any more than action man will make a gay child straight. These stereotypes are human created stereotypes, animals make no distinction between male and female when it comes to toys and colours, it’s just us. So stay liberal, stop worrying and keep loving your children!

]]> Comment on Boys playing with girls toys by See http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/boys-playing-with-girls-toys/#comment-1235 See Tue, 07 Feb 2012 10:32:00 +0000 http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/?p=2800#comment-1235 Great blog, love that you don't understand men just generally! Me neither. Don't worry Sam will probably just end up like his Uncle Asher, metrosexual which is not too bad. He will be sensitive and able to talk about his feelings which is a very good thing. Great blog, love that you don’t understand men just generally! Me neither. Don’t worry Sam will probably just end up like his Uncle Asher, metrosexual which is not too bad. He will be sensitive and able to talk about his feelings which is a very good thing.

]]> Comment on Boys playing with girls toys by Sarah Arrow http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/boys-playing-with-girls-toys/#comment-1234 Sarah Arrow Mon, 06 Feb 2012 13:07:00 +0000 http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/?p=2800#comment-1234 Kev was struck dumb when he compared girls to boys. Girls were far more violent, more active and more physical. They also play with boys toys and don't hesitate to make it known! As he's the only male in the house he struggles, even the male cats leave as there's too much hairspray and oestrogen :) Kev was struck dumb when he compared girls to boys. Girls were far more violent, more active and more physical. They also play with boys toys and don’t hesitate to make it known! As he’s the only male in the house he struggles, even the male cats leave as there’s too much hairspray and oestrogen :)

]]> Comment on Boys playing with girls toys by Lynn http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/boys-playing-with-girls-toys/#comment-1233 Lynn Mon, 06 Feb 2012 12:15:00 +0000 http://www.mumsontheblog.co.uk/?p=2800#comment-1233 Parenting is never easy and there are no rehearsals for bringing up girls or boys.     It's difficult not to be stereotypical and say keep on with the boys toys, footballs and boy colours clothes etc.  Even having boy play dates may not be the answer. Communication is something that he might pick up on from you and his sisters.   I bet your young man will grow up charming the girls [was going to say charming the  pants off but that didn't seem right!] And having a close relationship with you, his father and his sisters.  Meanwhile feed him well. And good luck Parenting is never easy and there are no rehearsals for bringing up girls or boys.     It’s difficult not to be stereotypical and say keep on with the boys toys, footballs and boy colours clothes etc.  Even having boy play dates may not be the answer. Communication is something that he might pick up on from you and his sisters.   I bet your young man will grow up charming the girls [was going to say charming the  pants off but that didn't seem right!] And having a close relationship with you, his father and his sisters.  Meanwhile feed him well. And good luck

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